1. Don’t know each other that well.
Obviously two people do know each other to some extent which led them to the decision of getting married. However, they don’t know each other well enough to get married just yet. See, the difference between dating and marriage is primarily the fact that you can’t just end it without any consequences. Obviously, there will be some consequences when you break up with a partner but not as major as divorcing a partner.
2. You don’t want answers.
It doesn’t make you creepy to want to know about your partner’s past. Do not judge them solely from their past but keep that in mind when you two are about to tie the knot. Find out answers to questions you didn’t even know you needed to. You’re marrying this person for crying out loud! You have every right to know everything about them.
3. Overlooking many things.
People often find themselves wondering what ‘changed’ in the relationship because one day you knew them as this amazing person and now they make your life a living hell. Nothing changed to be honest, unless it’s circumstantial which you can probably tell, no one really changes. Everyone is the same person from the first date till divorce. You just overlooked most of the red flags.
4. Wanting different things.
When the subject of marriage is brought up, you need to focus so much on what comes out of your partner’s mouth. Differences in wedding plans are normal but I’m talking about differences in what you two want after marriage. Would you two have kids? Where are you two going to live? It’s marriage! It’s a pretty big deal if you ask me. People need to look at every little thing there is, never think that you can convince them later because even if you manage to make them say yes, odds are that at every slight problem there will be (and is bound to be), they’ll be bitter towards you thinking that it’s all your fault.
5. Don’t try to change your partner.
Don’t ever, and I mean EVER, try to change your partner. Look, you want a perfect spouse, I get that, but you can’t transform someone into that. You need to look for someone who’s everything you want in a soulmate. You don’t get to change a human being with the face of your ideal soulmate to the personality of your ideal soulmate or vice versa.
I’m pretty sure that no one would want their relationship to end but they disregard so many things that ultimately, they’re left with no other option.