Apologies is a good fuel for relationship. It can work to diffuse tension, mend fences and create solutions. However, if you apologise too much, it could ruin the relationship. It leaves your partner with the impression that you are too passive and accommodating. That you may be a doormat.
Here is a list of things you have no business apologising for:
Your Passion and interest.
You don’t have to share all the same interests as your partner to have a happy relationship, but you should both be supportive of one another’s passion, even if they don’t interest you.
Your passion makes up your personality and your partners must learn to embrace each other and compromise when needed.
For The Monotony of Your Relationship
After dating someone for a long time, it’s normal to feel like certain aspects of your relationship are repetitive. And sometimes, the day-to-day questions (like “what should we do for dinner?”) can be annoying — but you should never apologize for asking them. If it’s something that needs to be discussed and you can’t get around it, there’s nothing to be sorry for, even if it annoys your partner
Your Natural Elements
We all have our elements and if your relationship is healthy, you should never feel like you have to apologize for being yourself. There is nothing you can do to change your core, and if you have some quirks that your spouse or partner doesn’t like, you can’t keep apologizing for them. You are you, and you should never apologize for that.
You should not apologize for having and expressing an opinion, whether your partner agrees with it or not. The foundation of any good relationship is respect — which includes respecting one another’s opinions, even if you don’t agree with them. Each of us has a right to have and express opinions, and when we apologize for having them, we rob ourselves of power, and we are unconsciously communicating that our opinions don’t matter.
Apologise For Nothing
It can be tempting to say “I’m sorry” just to avoid a fight… even if you didn’t do the thing you’re apologizing for. But ultimately, that empty apology has no merit, and will do more harm to your relationship than good.
REPORT By Etim