It’s ultimately up to you who you do or don’t invite to your wedding, but it’s usually expected that those close to you – especially those in your wedding party – will be able to bring their loved ones with them to celebrate your marriage.
But one bride has left her maid of honour absolutely devastated after she told the woman she wouldn’t be allowed to have her partners at the wedding because of concerns that other guests would be too confused.
The bride explained that her best friend and maid of honour, Marissa, is in a polyamorous relationship and currently has three partners – Greg, Brandon, and Ace.
And while the bride herself is happy to support Marissa’s relationship status, her fiancé, Mike, has a “conservative” family that wouldn’t understand their situation.
So, the couple has decided to ban all three of Marissa’s partners from attending the wedding, as they don’t want to have to spend all day “explaining her love life” to Mike’s family.
The bride and her husband-to-be have even replaced the spots saved on their guestlist for Marissa’s partners by inviting some of Mike’s co-workers instead, leaving Marissa heartbroken.
In a post on Reddit, the bride wrote: “I am getting married in September. My partner, Mike and I are doing a big wedding for 250 guests. I’ve always dreamed of having a storybook wedding. I asked my best friend Marissa to be my MOH [maid of honour] and she happily agreed. She’s been a huge help to me in every step of planning the wedding.
“Marissa is in a poly relationship and she has three partners. Greg, Brandon, and Ace. She’s been with Greg for 5 years and was the first partner she had. They added Brandon and Ace over the course of their relationship with Ace being the newest member. They all date each other and seem to be happy. I don’t really ‘get’ it if I’m being honest but it’s not my business.
“However, the issue came into play when Mike pulled me aside and said while he loves Marissa he didn’t feel like spending the wedding explaining her love life to his family. I understand, they are very conservative and hardly accept LGBT people as is let alone an LGBT polyset. I had already reserved 4 spots for Marissa & co but my husband suggested he invite a few coworkers to take the partner’s spot and Marissa could come alone. I didn’t want to ruin his big day so I agreed reluctantly.
“I know I should have told Marissa from the get-go but I just couldn’t bring myself to do it. So when invites went out she called me up immediately and asked why she didn’t have a plus 3 invite. I explained to her exactly what I said above and she just said ‘oh’ and hung up.”
Source: The Mirrow