Being in a relationship with someone is all about being one; sharing your times together, secrets and experiences among others. This means that your significant other to a large extent get to know you in and out as the relationship progresses.
However, there are some secrets that when said, may change the way you relate to your partner, the way they perceive you and sometimes even provide a basis for arguments and breakups.
While full disclosure and honesty to each other is laudable and must be pursued there are some secrets women may share with their men, and tear apart the fabric of their relationship.
You should thus consider keeping these secrets to yourself unless it is absolutely necessary. They include but are not limited to;
Crushing on his friend
It is natural for human beings, even those in a relationship to crush on someone else. You might find yourself in a situation where you love how one of your man’s friend dresses, carries himself around or talks.
As harmless as this feeling will be, the moment you admit to your man could end up being disastrous. Although innocent, some men do not take this admission lightly.
Your body count
Mentioning the number of people you have been to bed with is a total no-no. Whether you have reconciled with your sexual past or are at peace with your list of exes, your partner may view it differently.
No one wants lists and comparisons.
Dislike for his family and friends
Telling him how bad or weird his family is a slippery road.Your man has literally spent a huge part of his life with them. You can dislike them all you want but keep it to yourself or find a softer way to express your disapproval.
After all, you are dating him and not his family. If he has to know someone, nudge him to find it out on his own as calling out on family members may put you in a very bad spot.
Your family’s opinion on him
Once in a while, you have let your family, or even friends, give honest opinions on how they see your partner. Some of these comments, being honest, may not always be pleasant.
Knowing them for yourself is okay as you already have your reasons for dating him in the first place. Reminding him daily how your family and friends disapprove of your relationship will not help matters.
Previous sexual adventures
Although you are in a relationship with him, it doesn’t mean he brings 100% of your needs to the table. Keep your escapades to yourself, bolt that door and embrace that man in front of you.
Being together means planning your future together and doing projects together.
Finances, however, are a tough stretch since, despite the two of you being in a relationship, you are still individuals.
To begin with, having a separate account from the joint account the two of you share may save you on a rainy day. Have a clear discussion on finances, who does what etc. Be very careful with what you disclose, your money is your money, keep this card close to your chest.