Step By Step Process On How To Stimulate The Clitoris

Tip #1: Don’t Just Go Right for the Clitoris

Start by getting your partner warmed up. You want to be sure they are super turned on before you go in for clitoral stimulation. Rowett suggests making out, a little neck biting, and feeling each other up to get the arousal process started.

Tip #2: Be Mindful of Pressure

The clitoris is generally more sensitive than a penis, so you want to keep that in mind before diving in. ‘The pressure that you use to get yourself off will probably be far too much for a vulva owner, and even be potentially uncomfortable or painful.’ She recommends starting with lighter pressure and then moving to move intense sensations (if your partner wants that).

Tip #3: Always Use Lube

If you’re going to touch a clit, get yourself some lube. Mintz says that clits DO NOT like to be touched dry. ‘Dry rubbing is about as pleasurable as sliding down a water slide with no water, so the wetter the better,’ Rowett adds.

Tip #4: Don’t Ignore the Rest of the Vulva

While the clitoris is the center of pleasure, the rest of the vulva can get involved in the fun, too. ‘Work with the whole surface area,’ Rowett says. ‘You can switch up from using a couple of fingers to using more or even the flat of your palm.’

Tip #5: Try the Circling Technique

Rowett says that circling the clitoris with your tongue or fingers is a classic for a reason: it’s pretty widely enjoyed. You just want to be sure you’re circling the actual clitoris. ‘For some people, the clit can be a bit hidden amongst the inner and outer labia and public hair, so use your fingers to find that little nub,’ she says.

Tip #6: Get the G-spot Involved

While you’re stimulating the external clitoris, you can bring in the G-spot to up the pleasure. The G-spot is actually the backend of the clitoris (the internal clitoris). Using one or two well-lubed fingers or a G-spot toy, ‘make a “come hither” motion with them (meaning they’re slightly curving up) and slowly rub on the G-spot/G-area,’ Rowett says.

Tip #7: Bring Toys Into the Mix

Vibrators are not your enemies, they are your teammates. They are literally designed to offer up intense, amazing pleasure, especially for clit-owners. So, bring in the toys! ‘Specifically, have the clit owner stimulate [themselves] during intercourse with a small handheld vibrator,’ Mintz says. ‘We know [female-bodied people] who use vibrators have easier, more frequent and more intense orgasms. So, have penetrative sex in a position in which the woman can access her clit [with a vibe].’

Tip #8: Try Clit-stimulating Sex Positions

Some sex positions are better than others when it comes to getting that much-needed clitoral stimulation. Rowett suggests trying cowgirl for this, as it works especially well. ‘You can not only freely move your hips but it gives you direct clitoral stimulation, too.’ You can also adjust missionary for better access to the clit. ‘You can either slightly switch up the angle so the person penetrating is more at a right angle which gives you space to use your hands for rubbing the clit, or you can put a toy there [during classic missionary,’ she tells us.

Is the clitoris the same as the G-spot?

The clitoris and the G-spot are two parts of the same structure. At least, kind of. The external clitoris is the part of the clit that you can see on the outside. The G-Spot is the intersection of three internal structures: The vagina, the clitoris, and the urethral sponge (also known as the CUV area). When you’re stimulating the G-spot, you’re stimulating the internal body of the clitoris – as well as the vagina and urethral sponge.

Do all women like clitoral stimulation?

While the vast majority of female-bodied people do enjoy clitoral stimulation, not everyone will. The thing is, all humans are different. This is why it’s always really important to have open and honest conversations about how someone likes being touched in order to ensure everyone has the best sexual experience possible.

Does clitoral stimulation always lead to orgasm?

Orgasm is a complex neurobiological process. While clitoral stimulation is a great avenue to provide orgasms for female-bodied people – it might not always result in a climax. Instead of focusing entirely on orgasm as the ‘main goal’, try focusing on pleasure. After all, it’s about the journey, not the destination.

Credit: menshealth.com