Ways Men Can Make Their Orgasms Better

1) Touch your taint

If you haven’t already been introduced, meet your taint – or your perineum, if we’re getting technical. It’s the strip of skin between your balls and your butt, and it’s one of many highly erogenous zones that responds well to sexual stimulation. “This area is packed with nerve-endings, so it feels really sensitive,” says Arlene Goldman, Ph.D., coauthor of Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy.

Some guys say that by applying pressure to this area, they’re able to have multiple orgasms `– which is probably because you can stimulate your prostate gland externally via your perineum. During intercourse or oral sex, ask your partner to place a finger here and press onto it until the pressure feels just right.

2) Massage your P-spot (a.k.a. the prostate)

Speaking of the prostate, it turns out this gland is the male equivalent to the G-spot. You can stimulate it externally by applying pressure to your perineum, but if you’re interested in maximising pleasure, you’ll have to do a little anal probing.

If you’re playing with a partner, have them lube up the soft pad of a finger and stick it about 2 inches inside your butt. Once they feel the small, walnut-sized lump, they can apply some pressure and light thrusting. If you want to explore anal play solo, a prostate massager or vibrating butt plug can help you out.

One option for a mind-blowing orgasmic experience is to combine prostate and penile stimulation. Another option is to focus entirely on the prostate and have a P-spot orgasm, which many people describe as a deeper, fuller-body sensation.

“The penis is like the high scorer that keeps the morale up, and then you bring in the prostate and you’re like, ‘Holy shit! I didn’t know the prostate could assist!’” Play says. “Then you realise the prostate can do it by itself.”

3) Shorten your refractory period

Mentally, you may want to go for another round after achieving a great orgasm, but most guys physically can’t get another erection immediately following sex. “A refractory period is the time after a man ejaculates when he is no longer able to have an erection,” Emily Morse, sexologist and host of the Sex With Emily podcast, previously told Men’s Health.

This period is different for every guy and can last anywhere from minutes to a full day. However, there are ways to shorten this phase, she explains. The best way to decrease refractory time is by increasing arousal. “This could be doing something different, like trying out a toy or talking dirty (or dirtier than usual). Even small changes can be just the novelty and excitement needed to rev up the engines for round two.”

4) Try for multiple orgasms (penile and prostate)

Thanks to that pesky refractory period, it’s tough to have more than one ejaculatory orgasm in a row. But with enough practice, you might be able to have non-ejaculatory multiple orgasms, also known as NEMOs.

The key is squeezing your pubococcygeal muscle (it should feel like stopping a pee midstream) right at the brink of climax, until you learn to separate the feeling of orgasm from the experience of ejaculation. Deep breathing can also help you lean into those feel-good sensations without blowing your load.

“You can’t expect for each small orgasm to feel like your usual orgasms,” Jonathan Stegall, M.D., founder and president of the Center for Advanced Medicine in Atlanta, previously told Men’s Health. “They’ll be less in intensity, but for some men, having several small orgasms is actually preferable to having one big one.”

If you ask Play, the easiest way to cum multiple times is to throw some prostate orgasms into the mix, since the recovery time is shorter.

5) Do kegels

“You know how women do kegel exercises and say it strengthens their vaginal orgasm? Men can do the same,” says Alex Robboy, a sex therapist in Philadelphia.

Essentially, kegel exercises are a way of contracting the muscles of the pelvic floor, which give you greater control and intensity during sex. Try lifting your penis up and down with your muscles, or even try to “write the alphabet with the tip of your penis,” suggests Robboy.

6) Use a sex toy

We’re used to sex toys being marketed toward women and people with a vulva, but there are plenty of toys out there to help penis owners get off, too. You’ve probably heard of the Fleshlight, a popular male masturbator, but did you know there are also vibrators designed specifically for the penis? Cock rings, butt plugs, and prostate massagers can also bring new sensations into your sexual experience.

“For people with penises, vibrating toys can add extra stimulation to the glans, the frenulum, the perineum, or can be used in the butt,” says Johnson. “For trans men and masculine-leaning nonbinary folks, these same vibrating toys can be used externally on their bottom parts.”

While anal play may not be for everyone, you may find that having a sex toy in or around this area during orgasm can kick your pleasure up a notch, Johnson says.

Source: menshealth.com